Boyfriend Drinks Alcohol: How to cope with his addiction

I have been noticing that my boyfriend is drinking alcohol often. What can I do about his excessive drinking? Try the following tips for coping with his addiction to alcohol.

  1. Realize that you cannot control your boyfriend. If he chooses to get drunk, you have two choices, either stay with him and accept his drinking or break up. The decision is your because he is not going to quit just because you do not like it.
  2. Be careful to not isolate. Stay in close contact with your friends and do things a part from your boyfriend. As much as you want him to be with you, there will be times when he will choose alcohol over you. In these instances, spend time with a friend or do something that you enjoy without the alcoholic. Whatever you do, do not fight with him about his choice to get hammered instead of spending time with you. Again, the choices is yours to either stay in this relationship with an alcoholic boyfriend or to not.
  3.  If you want to stay  in the relationship, start attending Al-anon meetings. This is where you will find help from people who understand what you are dealing with. They can teach you how to cope with an alcoholic boyfriend better than anyone else.
  4. Don’t obsess over things he is doing. It is vitally important to not get caught in the trap of  wanting to investigate to see if he is cheating on you. You must discipline yourself to mind your own business. If you don’t, you will find yourself going bananas over the behaviors of the alcoholic.  If your boyfriend is drinking a lot or doing drugs a lot,  the chances of him wanting to spend quality time with you are slim to none.

 

There are three more things for you to keep in mind:

  • If your boyfriend tries to blame you for his drinking problem, don’t buy into this foolishness. You are not the cause of his choices to drink or drug. DO NOT own that lie. You are not responsible for his behavior.
  • Another thing to be aware of is that if he finds himself in some sort of trouble, he may try to get you to help him out of  the situation. This could be in the form of asking you for money or asking you  to call in to his boss because he is too drunk to work. Don’t loan your boyfriend any money and do not call his boss. If he gets arrested because of his drinking problem, decline bailing him out when he ask for your help. Your boyfriend must experiences the fulness of the consequences related to his alcohol or drug use. If he  doesn’t he will continue to get worse rather than hitting a bottom and asking for help.
  •  If he becomes verbally abusive or physically abusive, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP right away. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t going to treat you with kindness and respect. I don’t care how sorry he says he is afterward, DO NOT continue in a relationship with him.

There are  plenty of men in this world who are not active alcoholics or on the road to being one. You  can afford to be choosy in this area of your life. Don’t settle for less than you deserve by staying with a boyfriend who drinks excessive amounts of alcohol. Finally, if you are uncertain that about addiction, please study these basic signs of alcoholism. You are responsible for continuing your education on this life altering situation that you have found yourself in.